Bye Bye 2016

_mg_9620Originally I was going to write a long drawn out post about this year and then I thought….the past is in the past (in my Rafiki voice).

2016 you were a hard one. A year FULL of lessons and more ups and downs then I ever thought I was prepared to handle. But I did it…by the grace of God and I am so proud of myself.

This is the year I quit my job for good and decided to take a great leap of faith and learned how strong I am. This year my grandmother passed away and learned what it’s like to deal with death. This year I learned where my passions truly lie and what I want out of my life.

This year I learned (THE HARD WAY) how to not stress. And let go and let GOD. But for real, not just say it but to do it. Hardest and best lesson I’ve learned and honestly am still learning.

And that’s the main thing I want to take with me. Not just for 2017 but for life. And with that, I don’t have any resolutions this year. I’m just going to continue to do what I love, work hard, pray, meditate and LET GO.

2016, I can’t say you were my favorite year, but I have a feeling you were my most important.

xx

5 Tips To Starting a Blog In 2016


So many of you have reached out with questions on how I got started and what steps they can take to start a blog in 2016 so I thought it was finally time to do a video sharing my tips and advice.

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Cameras:
Canon 5d mark IV (top tier, the absolute best for picture and video):

For video I love the Canon G7x Mark ii

Other recommendations:

Sony RX1:
Panasonic Lumix
Fujifilm X-T10
Blogger Platforms:
Wordpress
Blogger
Squarespace

Blogger Templates:
Pipdig

What Is Your Purpose?

20160916_1123Do you ever wonder what your purpose is? Like why were you sent here on this earth? I promise you mine is not to just wear cute outfits. It is something I enjoy but not something that defines me. My goal in life is to inspire. Inspire anyone to follow their dreams and make the best of what God throws their way. To know their story is never set in stone and they have the power to change anything at any time. To know your mind is powerful, prayer is powerful and what you think will manifest itself.

At the end of the day I’m working on making what I love a living. Life is too short to settle for anything less. Life is too short to spend most of your days unhappy or in a monotonous routine. Know that you are worth more always and that you can accomplish what you desire. You just have to take a leap of faith.

Whether it’s wanted start a blog, quit your job, go back to school, travel the world…whatever it is. Just do it! If you do it with intentions and with faith in your heart and determination, you can do anything. Still to this day quitting my job was the best decision yet.

Thank you guys for following along with me. I’m excited to see what’s next!

Dear Diary: The Toughest Part About Being A Creative

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Dear Diary,

I have to say the toughest part about being a creative person is the constant encounters where you have to justify your dreams and people speaking to you in a condescending belittling way.

This is why it takes very thick skin to be successful in the creative world.

The one thing I admire most about where I grew up is the one thing I actually dislike the most too. North-east coast’s biggest pride is education. Many of the top schools in the country reside there and it’s a breeding ground for traditional career paths. Problem with that is when you choose a “not so traditional” career path many people don’t get it and in turn sometimes unknowingly and sometimes “jokingly” belittle it.

“Oh you’re still singing?” “Oh you’re still doing that blog thing?” “All she does is look pretty.” Words I’m constantly bombarded with when I step off the plane into the stuffy East coast air. They assume I don’t have my life together, they assume I’m all over the place or not where I “should be” for my age but the truth is I probably made more money doing one gig than they do in a week. (throws the shade)

Yes, I chose a career path that is untraditional, yes I chose the zig zag path instead of the straight and narrow, yes it’s taken me “longer” than if I had chosen something more traditional as a career but that does not by any means make me an unstable struggling human who is lost.

At the end of the day, I have to remind myself that I am happy and doing what I love and even though things are not working out exactly how I planned I’ve learned to follow God’s plan and not to question it so much.

So here’s the thing (in my Kevin Hart voice), we creatives chose the hardest path of all. The path that has no guarantees and no one way to travel which makes getting to the destination that much more difficult. But at the end of the day, I’ve never met a successful creative person who hasn’t sacrificed for what they love. I sacrificed the steady paycheck, but I’ve gained so much more and my life is so much more fulfilling and to me that’s true success.

Basically although I have to admit people’s belittling comments sting. They try to mask it behind jokes but there’s always truth in that as we all know. But a.) I’m learning to separate from those kind of people who unknowingly bring me down instead of build me up and b.) when I think about going down any other road I can’t imagine it and that’s how I know I did the right thing for me. And as long as I’m happy with that, screw everyone else and their damaging (potentially jealous filled) comments.

My goal is to not buy a house get married and have 2.5 kids. Yes those are plans I have in life but my ultimate goal is to change the world. To influence others for the greater good. To spread love, encouragement, positivity and courage. Courage to take the path that’s in your heart even when people will judge you for it. And those my friends are intangible things, the things small minded and near sighted people can not see. So the next time we look at someone’s creative path and we can’t quit seem to understand it, let’s just accept that maybe it’s not for us to understand and let’s not discourage one another from our own uniques paths.

The End.

Dear Diary: No FOMO (Well Maybe A Little)

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Dear Diary,

I’m starting to realize the things that I’m truly valuing at the moment based on what sparks my “jealousy” oddly enough. Now when I say jealous I use this term very loosely because I’ve never fully been jealous of anyone but a little competitive jealousy has always helped to boost my work ethic and I’m not mad about it. I don’t get jealous in the sense that I look at someone and say why don’t have I have that. Rather I look at the person and say I need to get that too! And then I hustle for it.

After attending more weddings this year then I ever have in one year and watching my insta feed full of sparkly diamond engagement rings and seriously the cutest babies ever. I only ever feel that gut feeling of ” I want that” when I see someone who is an opening act for my favorite band, or just landed number one on the radio or is jet setting and blogging all over the world. Hell ya, I want that.

The only thing I struggle with is when I see women focus on the career somehow babies and husband seem to get pushed way way back. But I don’t want it way way back. Maybe just…back. Ya feel me? lol My question is how do you find the balance of pursing an all encompassing career but still leaving yourself open to the love baby marriage scenario?

Possible?

xx