Untitled-1Ok so ever since I was a little kid I always wanted to wear glasses. In a time where glasses were definitely considered more nerdy than fashionbnle, I on the other hand must have been ahead of my time because I thought they were cool. I remember myself, 8 years old purposely staring at the sun because my mom used to always say if you stare at the sun you will need glasses, little did she know that’s what I wanted. (saying this out loud makes me feel like a really strange child)

I was introduced to a website BonLook that has so many cute glasses that are not only for the visually impaired. Now wearing glasses is actually fashionable and you don’t even need a prescription to be a part of the cool kids!

Don’t It Always Seem To Go

Fall fashion_8364As a writer, I like to find the irony in things or the predictably irattional things we do as humans. One of my favorite quotes/song lyric has always been, “don’t it always seem to go that you don’t know what you’ve got til it’s gone.” A lot of times we have to lose something to realize how much we really loved or needed it. It’s the old graduation goggles phenomenon where in the moment you felt like you hated it and it was all wrong but once it’s over you wish you could relive it again. (ah if only I could go back to the days where I had no bills)

We all are guilty of it at one point. But why do we always seem to wait until it’s gone to appreciate something? Wouldn’t we have felt so much better if we had just appreciated it while it happened? And think of all the amazing things that could have happened because we expressed this gratitude and acted upon it.

I hate living my life in the “what if” so I’m learning to be appreciative of the now. No matter how much it may seem to suck or even if you’re in a very indifferent time in your life, appreciate whatever you have going on NOW. Don’t wait for some turning point to realize the importance of these moments. There have been a lot of ups and downs for me lately but I have to say I’m grateful for all of it and I’m most grateful for the unknown future because that means anything is possible.


Unnecessary Suffering

Background-Pics“The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.”

I recently saw this quote and it struck a chord with me. Most people are especially resilant and can handle a lot. But how much do you actually NEED to handle and how much is unnecessary suffering? Do you really need to close yourself off to potential happiness because you’re so busy waiting out the suffering to “see how it goes?”

I guess the way I see it is we have control over whether or not we are happy. Its all about a. Perspective and b. Knowing when to let something go.

There’s always a different way to look at the things that happen in your life, no matter how miserable it seems. This doesn’t mean to not allow yourself to feel the pain, just don’t dwell in it. This goes along with knowing when to let something go. “What you resist persist” my mom always says, so if you just let things happen and try not to stress so much you will gradually see the happiness start to creep in. Besides, stressing never made anything happen anyway, it just adds to the unnecessary suffering.

When you just wait to the point where you just can’t take it anymore, you inadvertently are not taking control over you life. No one intentionally makes themselves suffer but if you’re unhappy with something you can change then why don’t you change it? And if you can’t change it, you always have the ability to change your perspective. So here’s to changing our perspective on the things that seem so bad in our lives and to learning to let things go:

An everyday battle that’s worthy of fighting. xx

If You Have A Dream

Martin-Luther-King-Times-of-ChallengeObviously on this famous holiday, everyone is going to be talking about Martin Luther King, or at the very least thanking him for a day off work. This holiday has been so watered down it’s actually become less relevant than Valentine’s Day. But no one really talks about the deeper meaning of this day. When was the last time, if ever, you really stood your ground for something you believe in? And I mean more than wearing that skirt even though your boyfriend hates it, but really something life changing for a generation or a people, something bigger than yourself?

Unfortunately, we have become so transformed by technology we constantly vent our frustrations via the webosphere but then don’t go any further to help evoke an actual change. MLK was just the surface of civil rights, there are so many others who contributed in big ways, so many still contributing to this day to try to make this country equal (because let’s face it, we’re still not there yet) It will take more than 50 years to erase 100 of years of a culture’s consequence.

But no matter what you stand for in life, maybe take this day to figure out how you can start to actually apply how you can make a change, big or small. I know I want to do this through my music and I strive for this everyday I sit at the piano. So if you had a dream, what would it be? And how will you do it?

19 Hard Things You Need To Do To Be Successful

Fall fashion_8379Oh Boy I am learning this more and more each day. Success is not easy and I truly believe the difference between succesful (don’t confuse that with wealthy) people and not so succesful people is that they are willing to do the hard stuff. The most important one to me being never….ever give up no matter how impossible it seems. I’m sure many of you saw this floating around the internet but I still wanted to share 🙂

1. You have to make the call you’re afraid to make

2. You have to get up earlier than you want to get up.

3. You have to give more than get in return right away.

4. You have to care more about others than they care about you.

5. You have to fight when you are already injured, bloody, and sore.

6. You have to feel unsure and insecure when playing if safe seems smarter.

7. You have to lead when no one else is following you yet.

8. You have to invest in yourself even though no one else is.

9. You have to look like a fool while you’re looking for answers you don’t have.

10. You have to grind out the details when it’s easier to shrug them off.

11. You have to deliver results when making excuses is an option.

12. You have to search for your own explanations even when you’re told to accept the “facts.”

13. You have to make mistakes and look like an idiot.

14. You have to try and fail and try again.

15. You have to run faster even though you’re out of breath.

16. You have to be kind to people who have been cruel to you.

17. You have to meet deadlines that are unreasonable and deliver results that are unparalleled.

18. You have to be accountable for your actions even when things go wrong.

19. You have to keep moving towards where you want to be no matter what’s in front of you.

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Article from Business Insider (full post here)